Priest Urges Families to Raise Good Husband and Wife Materials
Angelo lights a holy candle held by his wife Margaret in the presence of Fr. Alule, fellow Priests and other witnesses in Christ the King Church Arua on Saturday. Photo Credit, Andrew Cohen Amvesi
ARUA CITY — Rev. Fr. Monsignor Dr. Cosmas Alule, Parish Priest of Ofudde Catholic Parish in Maracha District, has appealed to families to raise their children to become good husbands and wives.
According to Fr. Alule, every man desires a perfect wife, and every woman desires a perfect husband, but such people do not fall from heaven.
“They don’t fall from heaven! We are the ones who must produce them. We are the ones who must bring up our children to become good wives and good husbands,” Fr. Alule said during the wedding ceremony of Angelo Embama and Margaret Ajua at Christ the King Church in Arua City on Saturday, December 27, 2025.
Fr. Alule was the main celebrant at the wedding, which attracted fellow priests, guests, and Christians who filled the church to capacity.
In his homily, Fr. Alule emphasized the importance of committed families in raising girls who are “wife material” and boys who are “husband material.”
He cautioned, however, that if children spend their time as “kings and queens of night disco halls” or sit by roadsides on makeshift rope seats begging for money, they will not grow into ideal spouses.
“If we truly understood that we are the ones responsible for producing perfect wives and husbands, we would take the right direction,” he said. “If we think we can somehow find a good wife material or a good husband for our daughters without making any effort to raise our children properly in this digital age, we are only deceiving ourselves.”
Fr. Alule urged mothers, girls, and aunties to compare and guide children daily, ensuring they are brought up according to societal values.
He identified divorce as a major reason why finding good husband and wife materials is difficult today.
“I think the reason it is hard to find a perfect wife or husband – what we call wife material or husband material, is because people still pray and advocate for divorce,” he said. “They say the church is too hard on divorce. Why not say Jesus is too hard? Jesus is the one who said it, not the church.”
He reminded the congregation of Jesus’ words on divorce: “What God has united, let no one divide.” He noted that Moses permitted divorce because of the people’s hardness of heart, but Jesus made it clear that divorce was not part of God’s original plan.
Fr. Alule congratulated the couple for choosing to celebrate their marriage in the church and urged them to raise good children who will become exemplary wives and husbands in the future.
He described Margaret Ajua as the salt of the family and encouraged all Christian women to play a similar role in their families and society.
The priest likened the wedding certificate to a “learner’s permit” rather than a “driving permit.”
“When you come to the altar, we sign certificates here, and you show them. But it is not like a driving permit which you will show a police officer and he says ‘go.’ It is a learner’s permit; you must learn every day how to live your married life, just as we priests learn every day how to be good priests. It never ends,” Fr. Alule advised.
Rose Obigah, the Terego Woman MP, echoed Fr. Alule’s message, attributing the high rate of divorce and separations to poor upbringing and lack of tolerance.
“We have many divorce cases and separations because of lack of tolerance,” she said. “Sometimes someone wakes up and says, ‘Leave my home.’ In African tradition, the home belongs to the man. But when oppression becomes too much and there is no tolerance, especially when spouses come from different backgrounds, problems arise.”
She added: “Marriage is not a bed of roses. But if you decide to marry someone, you must have some tolerance. I urge every parent to allow their children to attend such functions so that they can see good examples. Even if there are no ‘bed of roses’ at home, they can witness them in church.”
In their remarks, the couple expressed gratitude to everyone for their support and vowed to uphold their marriage for life.
The couple later hosted a colorful reception at Heritage Courts, where guests showered them with gifts amid great excitement.